This may make you cry

https://www.facebook.com/holley.kitchen/videos/vb.733071868/10153490757561869/?type=2&theater

This may make you cry.  I love how this woman says what she says.  She is my image of a brave person.  She would not say she is brave, she would say, like I did when people said I'm brave, that we have no choice we just go on because we have to.  But she IS brave and her little video deserves to be seen by many.  It's more effective without the music, I found.

It is good to try to knock that bull**** stuff people say on the head.   It certainly made me think about what I've said to people in the past.  I remember at the Cancer House asking an old lady 'how are you?'  She shook her head sadly and said 'not great right now'.  I wanted the ground to swallow me up, I felt crass and stupidly insensitive and I didn't mean to be at all.  In the Cancer House and in Cancer World, you don't ask people how they are.  You say, 'how are you today?' or just 'hello, good to see you' is enough.

Good luck Holley Kitchen.